Self-esteem Counselling

The way we view and feel about ourselves has a profound effect on how we live our lives. Lots of clients who come to work with me have issues with self-esteem. If this is something you’d also like to talk about, then let’s get an appointment sorted.

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Self-esteem is such a simple term but profoundly affects the way we think, how we live our lives and impacts on our happiness.

As circumstances change,
so can self-esteem

Low self -esteem means, of course, that you negatively view yourself. Your weaknesses and the mistakes you have made in your life will be your focus.

If on the other hand, you have high self -esteem you will view yourself in a good light. Having high self -esteem enables you to ‘bounce back’ from difficult times in your life and significant life events such as loss and changes in circumstance. 

Self-esteem is an opinion, not a fact

It is essential to recognise that these are only opinions that you hold about yourself; they are not facts. They can be inaccurate, and there are always things that you can do to change them.

Change is not easy, but you can help yourself by being realistic and seeing each small success as a step in the right direction. 

“You have been criticising yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Helen Keller

The link between self-esteem & mental health

When you have negative beliefs about yourself, it lowers your ability to cope with stresses. Your levels of resilience are less than someone who has high self -esteem. You are, therefore, at possible more significant risk of developing mental health problems such as depression, anxiety and stress.

Challenge and change your beliefs

You wouldn’t be reading this if you hadn’t realised that low self -esteem impacts your capacity to enjoy life and be happy. If you want to increase your self- esteem, you need to challenge and change the beliefs that you have about your value as a person.

If this seems like an impossible task to do on your own, then let’s work together. You can come and see me for an initial appointment to see if you’d like to work with me.

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